I agree about treating people equally. I never said that we should treat transgenders unequally. But in doing that, that does not imply that my right to question is to be forfeited. You say, when treating people equally, there is (or should be) zero motivation to "understand" what is inside their underpants or question their identity. To a degree, I'm more courteous than you let on. I would address someone however they wish to be addressed out of mere politeness. But that does not mean that I am abandoning my view of things, including sex and gender. You say, it's not any of my business what gender they're assigned at birth. But you forget that when confronted with the statement that 'gender' is assigned at birth, that I believe gender and sex are of one conceptual entity and inseparable. I, as of now, cannot rationally segregate the two. But also, I see this inquiry as a public issue, a social discourse, and so I inquire because I want to learn and to also share my views. I do not just go along with this because people say it is so. And since people are making big changes to the way we see things, like a male on the boy's swim team competing as a boy for two years, and then "transitioning" on his third--that is something significant and it impacts society. You can't say these things happen and that in the end, all is alright, that all is normal.

No, I don't think I would like at my own mother's vag to "satisfy my curiosity" about who she really is, because I know she's a woman. Plain and simple; just as I know my dad's a man.

I've known this for 25 years and I anticipate it to be this way until life's end. I don't intend on treating anyone differently but that does not imply that I am not going to question statements that are given about objective reality.